How to Choose Clothes for a Special Event and Feel Confident Doing It
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Understanding Dress Codes: From Casual to Black Tie
The Power of How Clothes Affect Mood
What to Wear to a Gala, Wedding or School Reunion
Choosing Accessories for Formal Events
Wearing Statement Jewellery with Confidence
Fashion Industry Statistics: Why What We Wear Matters
What Should a Woman Wear to a Formal Event?
Finding Comfortable High Heels for Long Events
Think Outside the Box: Rewearing, Borrowing, and Sustainable Choices
Final Thoughts: How to Look Good and Feel Confident
Stephanie Rumble, renowned fashion stylist, accountability coach, and host of the Style for Life podcast, brings her 18 years of styling experience to episode 19: a masterclass on how to choose clothes for a special event. From interpreting confusing dress codes to making thoughtful accessory choices, Stephanie shares practical tips to help women look good, feel confident, and respect the tone of every occasion.
Whether you're attending a gala, formal event, or even a school reunion, this guide distills Stephanie's podcast into a structured and keyword-optimised blog post to help you elevate your wardrobe and your self-image.
Understanding Dress Codes: From Casual to Black Tie
The first step to dressing appropriately is understanding the invitation. Every event has an unspoken or stated level of formality, and it's essential to align your outfit with expectations. Stephanie provides valuable insight into the most common dress codes, demystifying what they actually mean and how to get them right.
Here are the main types of dress codes Stephanie covers:
Smart casual: Elevated everyday wear. Think jeans with a crisp shirt and blazer, or a midi dress with stylish flats.
Semi-formal dress code: Slightly more elevated than workwear. Cocktail dresses, silk blouses with tailored trousers, or elegant skirts.
Cocktail dress code: A step up from semi-formal. Ideal for events before 7 PM. Shorter dresses or separates with a touch of sparkle.
Black tie dress code for women: Long gowns or elegant cocktail dresses with dramatic accessories. Think structured fabrics and elevated makeup.
White tie or banquet dress code: Rare in New Zealand and traditionally considered the most formal level of dress code, typically involving full evening gowns and gloves for women, and tails with bow ties for men.
Understanding these categories helps you prepare confidently for any occasion. Stephanie emphasises that dressing appropriately is not about limiting your personality, but about showing respect for the host, the event, and yourself.
The Power of How Clothes Affect Mood
Your outfit doesn’t just change how others see you — it influences how you feel. Stephanie repeatedly stresses how much your confidence is tied to what you're wearing.
Wearing something flattering and true to your personality can lift your mood instantly
Confidence through clothing is real — especially when your outfit fits, flatters, and feels like “you”
Wearing colour that complements your skin tone can light up your complexion and change your energy
"If you’re choosing a profession where appearance is important, be prepared to dress the part." ~ Stephanie Rumble
The link between fashion and emotional wellbeing is often underestimated. Stephanie advocates for dressing with intention — not perfection — because when you wear something that feels right, your mindset improves, and your sense of self is reinforced. If you're unsure where to start, Stephanie’s personal styling services can help you discover what suits you best. That’s why understanding how clothes affect mood is such a valuable insight when preparing for a special event.
What to Wear to a Gala, Wedding or School Reunion
Not all events are created equal, and neither are their style expectations. Stephanie outlines different scenarios and how to navigate them with style and authenticity.
She reminds us that types of occasions and what to wear can be diverse:
Weddings: Respect the tone: Is it a garden wedding, beach event or evening formal?
Fashion galas: A perfect time to push style boundaries. Think bold colour, unique fabrics, or edgy styling.
School reunions: Aim for your best version of "you" — stylish, authentic, and comfortable.
For a business attire charity event, consider tailored suiting or structured separates, paired with confident footwear and accessories.
While these bullet points give a quick overview, Stephanie encourages thoughtful planning. It's not just about looking good — it’s about choosing outfits that align with the occasion and your identity. A thoughtfully chosen outfit creates a lasting impression, particularly in social or professional contexts. For deeper, mindset-aligned support around goal setting and presence, consider her Accountability Coaching services.
Choosing Accessories for Formal Events
Accessories complete your look — and according to Stephanie, they’re essential when styling for events. In her view, accessories are not optional extras; they’re outfit-defining details that communicate style, effort, and cohesion.
Stephanie recommends:
Coordinating metallic tones: Choose statement jewellery in gold or silver and match it with buckles, rings, and bag hardware
Adding visual interest with statement necklaces, earrings, or a bold bracelet
Selecting the right party handbag — one that fits your phone, lipstick, and keys while aligning with your outfit
"We just want people looking at the right places at you — and not the wrong places." ~ Stephanie Rumble
Thoughtfully chosen accessories for formal events not only polish your appearance but also help you stand out with subtle elegance. Whether you lean toward classic minimalism or playful boldness, the right accessories speak volumes.
Wearing Statement Jewellery with Confidence
If you're wearing a plain outfit, statement jewellery can be your secret weapon. Stephanie advises using it strategically — not just as decoration, but as a tool to highlight your best features and convey personal flair.
Choose one focal piece (e.g. a bold necklace or standout earrings)
Match your accessories to your dress code and personality
Use jewellery to draw attention upward toward your face
Wearing statement jewellery is about expression, not excess. Stephanie suggests trying on your full outfit — accessories included — well ahead of the event to make sure everything works together. This reduces stress and increases impact.
Fashion Industry Statistics: Why What We Wear Matters
The fashion industry isn’t just about personal style — it’s a powerful economic force and cultural mirror. These statistics shed light on just how influential the sector is in New Zealand and beyond.
The fashion industry added $7.8 billion to the New Zealand economy in 2023, accounting for 1.9 percent of GDP — more than supermarkets, specialty food, or building construction (NZ Herald).
Revenue in the Fashion Market is projected to reach US$1.41 billion in 2025. It's expected to grow annually by 9.25% from 2025 to 2029, reaching a projected market volume of US$2.01 billion by 2029 (Statista).
Sustainability matters: At least 47% of New Zealanders say they consider sustainability when choosing a brand or product. It ranks as the third most important factor after quality and price (Sustainable Business Council).
81% of New Zealand-based fashion businesses sell the majority of their goods domestically, showing that local brands truly support local markets (NZ Herald).
These insights show that fashion isn’t frivolous — it’s a vital contributor to the economy, a reflection of values like sustainability, and an industry with massive growth potential in New Zealand.
What Should a Woman Wear to a Formal Event?
When it comes to the question of what a woman should wear to a formal event, the answer isn't always black and white. In fact, it might be navy, emerald, or burgundy. Stephanie emphasises that black is not the only — or always the best — choice.
Stephanie’s formula for formal event attire is simple:
Choose clothing that fits well and flatters your shape
Stick to colours that enhance your skin tone
Use fabrics like silk, satin or velvet to elevate the outfit
Opt for structured pieces if you want to appear more polished
"Don’t be afraid to stitch up your neckline if it makes you feel more comfortable. That’s how I rock." ~ Stephanie Rumble
Whether it’s for a work function, gala, or charity banquet, the goal is to look respectful and radiant. Choosing the right fit and tone helps ensure your outfit lifts your confidence rather than making you self-conscious.
Finding Comfortable High Heels for Long Events
Don’t sacrifice comfort for style. Stephanie is honest about her own struggles with heels and encourages clients to prioritise practicality without compromising style.
Stephanie suggests:
Avoiding sky-high stilettos unless you can confidently wear them all night
Opting for comfortable high heels in metallics or nudes — which are versatile and chic
Re-wearing a well-fitting heel to multiple events instead of buying a new pair every time
Wearing shoes that hurt undermines your experience and can distract from the event itself. Instead, choose shoes that enhance your posture and presence — without punishing your feet.
Think Outside the Box: Rewearing, Borrowing, and Sustainable Choices
Looking great doesn't mean breaking the bank. Stephanie is a strong advocate for:
Borrowing or thrifting your event outfit
Choosing separates that can be restyled for multiple events
Buying timeless pieces on sale — like her 70% off Camilla and Marc trousers
These strategies aren’t just budget-friendly — they’re environmentally responsible. Stephanie’s take on fashion is modern and refreshingly practical: look amazing, but do it wisely.
Final Thoughts: How to Look Good and Feel Confident
The golden rule? Be prepared. Don’t wait until the week of your event to choose your outfit. Instead:
Plan ahead
Choose something that makes you feel good
Pay attention to dress codes
Use accessories to add personality
As Stephanie puts it: “Own your outfit. Be confident. Radiate positivity.” That’s how you look good and feel amazing. A truly thoughtful outfit sends a message — not just to others, but to yourself.
Need help? Stephanie offers colour analysis, body shape consults, personal shopping, and wardrobe audits through her Styling Services.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What is the best way to choose clothes for a special event?
Start by understanding the nature of the event and the expected dress code. Consider whether it's a formal evening affair, a cocktail event, or a relaxed daytime function. Your outfit should reflect the tone of the event and also make you feel comfortable and confident.
If in doubt, it’s always better to be slightly overdressed than underdressed. Choosing well-fitting clothes in flattering colours can elevate your presence. Stephanie Rumble offers personal styling consults to help you confidently plan outfits for weddings, galas, work functions and more.
How do I understand confusing dress codes?
Dress codes can be vague or misinterpreted, so it helps to break them down. Terms like “smart casual” or “cocktail” have specific meanings in fashion. Smart casual typically means polished but relaxed, while cocktail attire leans more glamorous and evening-focused.
If you're unsure, refer back to Stephanie’s breakdown in the podcast, or consult a stylist. Her service includes wardrobe audits and guidance for interpreting dress codes based on real-world events.
What should I wear to a black tie event?
For women, black tie usually means a floor-length gown or a highly polished cocktail dress, along with heels and accessories. You don’t have to wear black — rich jewel tones or dark hues like navy or burgundy work just as well.
Stephanie advises clients to focus on fit, structure, and coordinated accessories. If you need support, her personal shopping and formalwear planning services can help you select the perfect black tie look.
Can statement jewellery really elevate an outfit?
Absolutely. Statement jewellery draws attention to the face and adds personality to an otherwise simple outfit. A bold necklace or earrings can transform a basic dress into a polished, event-ready ensemble.
Stephanie recommends choosing one standout piece rather than layering too many. If you struggle with pairing accessories, her styling sessions can help you learn what suits you and how to combine accessories tastefully.
What’s the difference between semi-formal and cocktail dress codes?
Semi-formal attire is often more conservative and may resemble elevated workwear — dresses just above the knee, or tailored separates. Cocktail attire allows for more flair, sparkle, and bold styling, typically worn to evening events.
Understanding the nuances can help avoid underdressing or overdressing. If you have an event coming up, Stephanie can help decode your invitation and plan an outfit that hits the right note.
How can I be stylish without spending a fortune?
Stephanie encourages planning ahead, buying pieces that can be worn again, and even borrowing or thrifting. Many outfits can be repurposed with different accessories, shoes, or outerwear.
High style doesn’t require a high spend. With wardrobe coordination or a seasonal refresh from a stylist, you can build a versatile wardrobe that feels new each time.
Are there alternatives to wearing black to formal events?
Yes, and Stephanie is a big advocate for it. She herself owns over 70 dresses and none of them are black. Deep greens, burgundies, and navies can offer the same level of formality while bringing out your personality and skin tone.
If you're unsure what colours flatter you, a colour consultation is a great first step. Stephanie offers both virtual and in-person colour analysis to help you choose the best shades for your complexion.
How do I pick comfortable heels for long events?
Look for heels with padding, block or wedge soles, and moderate height. Avoid styles you haven’t worn before or ones that pinch. Metallics and neutrals are versatile and will serve you across multiple events.
Stephanie recommends building a small collection of event-ready shoes that balance form and function. She also provides shopping support if you need help sourcing heels that match your outfit and comfort level.
What if I don't feel confident in formalwear?
Confidence starts with preparation and self-awareness. Wearing something that fits your body, suits your colouring, and aligns with your personality can make all the difference. Avoid last-minute purchases and instead build trust in your choices over time.
Stephanie’s clients often report a transformation in self-esteem through styling sessions. Her approach is practical, empathetic, and tailored to who you are.
How important are accessories at a formal event?
Accessories are often the finishing touch that ties an outfit together. A well-coordinated bag, jewellery set, or belt can elevate a simple outfit to event-ready. Stephanie often says accessories show respect for the occasion and thoughtfulness in your look.
If you're not sure how to style your outfit, Stephanie’s one-on-one consults or wardrobe coordination services can help you match accessories with impact.
